24 for 24

I’ve been working on this list for a couple weeks now and it’s been surprisingly tricky thinking of things. I wanted goals that are challenging but achievable, and I wanted a mixture of fun and serious things. Here’s where I’ve settled:

(in no particular order)

24 Goals for my 24th Year:

1. Run 10 miles – rollover goal from last year
2. Memorize the book of Philippians – also a rollover goal; I figured this time I’ll identify the book from the get-go and have enough discipline to actually do it.
3. Go camping
4. Cook a meal of at least 3 courses and serve it to a group/another person
5. Take the GRE
6. Do a yoga handstand
7. Run in a race – 
probably a 5k, 10k, or 12k
8. Go to an outdoor concert
9. Improve piano playing enough to play in public
10. Apply to grad school – contingent on how things play out, but if I don’t apply this year I at least want to have picked a program and have a timeline for application
11. Run a seven-minute mile
12. Write 2-3 songs
– I took a year-long hiatus from song writing after the WR. This happened for a few reasons, but I think it’s time to get after it again.
13. Invest in a new wardrobe – In the last three years, I’ve given away a significant amount of my possessions and clothing, what with finishing school and moving out of the country. I’m ready to start rebuilding now that I’m more financially stable and have a better understanding of what I need vs. what I want.
14. Take a one-month social media break – I do use social media for work very regularly, but other than that, I’d like to be completely off the grid.
15. Pull an all-nighter; watch the sunrise
16. Establish a fully-funded Emergency Fund – three to six months of living expenses
17. Take a really stunning photo – i.e. more photography in general!
18. Frame my favorite photos – I have so many awesome pictures from my travels, and I always said I would frame my favorites when I moved into a house/apartment. I just need to do it, even if I don’t move this year.
19. Go to a Longhorn football game – never been as an alumna!
20. Make intentional phone calls to long distance friends – I have so many really, really good friends and unfortunately, a lot of them live far away. I want to make sure I keep them in my life by calling and writing regularly, so I’ll probably set aside one day a week to make sure I do this.
21. Go to the movies by myself – The last time I did this was three years ago when HP8 came out and I was working in Houston for the summer. I enjoy doing things alone, so I want to do this again.
22. Reduce soda consumption to 1-2 per week – I know I should cut soda out entirely, but this is a realistic baby step in that direction. Hopefully by 2016 I can finally stop drinking soda altogether!
23. Get rid of road rage  – ya, I have road rage… I think it developed when I lived overseas (driving is so much more aggressive in many countries). I figured it would subside after I lived in the States longer, but oops… it didn’t. Time to re-learn some patience in driving.
24. Open a Roth IRA – I have several other financial goals like this, but I probably can’t realistically achieve them unless my finances change (read: unless I get a raise). But if my finances do change somehow, one of my goals is to get started on things like opening an IRA and finishing off my student loan payments.

I feel pretty good about this list and I look forward to chipping away at it this year.

Do you have any goals for your current year of life? What should I add as a bonus goal? Wanna join me in some of these?

those 23 things

Last year for my 23rd birthday, I came up with a list of twenty-three goals to accomplish before I turned 24. All year, I had this list in the back of my mind and it really did help me try new things, achieve some goals, and follow through.

You probably don’t care about how it turned out, but since you’re still reading this blog I’d guess you’re at least vaguely interested. For your entertainment, I’ve added some gifs from Parks and Rec and 30 Rock (since those were two shows I watched and LOVED this year).

Let us revisit those 23 things:

1. Sew something significant by hand (a pillow, a dress, etc.)
Uhh, I never really got around to this. I sewed some minor things and mostly I’m okay with that.

2. Run 10 miles straight
I started training for this goal in January, giving myself three months to achieve it. Several times I was set back by weather (ice, rain, freezing temps), so I ended up only getting to 8.5 miles straight by my 24th birthday. But, I do hope to accomplish this goal before the month is over because I’m certainly within arm’s reach. I just don’t want to run in icy rain so I’ll have to wait for the weather to clear up a bit.


3. Read two books per month
I pretty much did this and I’m so happy about that. Having the goal made a difference in my persistence of finding new books and finishing them in a timely manner.

4. Learn to play piano (anyone have a piano?)
I got a keyboard for Christmas so I’ve started teaching myself piano! Slowly but surely…

5. Leave the country
Haiti 2014, thank you, Jesus


6. Leave the state
Colorado, Ohio, Georgia, overnight stay in Florida

7. Go camping, preferably some where new
I went camping a few times last year. Colorado was definitely my favorite camping trip (hiking 26 miles in the Rocky Mountains with awesome friends – thank you, Jesus). I can never get enough camping though.

8. Learn to knit or crochet
Learned it. Wasn’t very interested in it. Will revisit it when I’m 70.

9. Read a book in Spanish, and brush up on my (really rusty) Turkish
I read a chapter of Harry Potter in Spanish and it took me weeks. So, I didn’t really succeed at this goal, but I’m satisfied with my attempt.


10. Go to a concert
I got invited to a Switchfoot concert last fall and it was a blast. It made me want to go to concerts a little more regularly, so maybe I’ll have this goal again this year.

11. Go country dancing
I never went out country dancing, but I did get plenty of country dances in at several weddings last year, so I semi-achieved this goal.


12. Go on a lengthy road trip with friends to somewhere new
I kind of did this? I went on a road trip to Houston, many times to Austin (does that even count?), and we did some driving in Colorado, Ohio, and Georgia. I never planned out a road trip, which was maybe the point, but I did embrace the opportunities to drive to new places with friends and spend time laughing and talking in the car.

13. Vertical gardening
I never did this. I’m not really in a living situation where this would be possible, but someday I would like to do this (i.e. when I move)

14. Memorize a book of the Bible
This is one goal that I really wanted to achieve but I never buckled down and followed through on it. Of the goals I did not meet, this is the one that haunts me the most.


15. Visit a friend who lives out of the city, state, or country
Thank you, World Race weddings

16. Get back into swimming (…if I can use a free pool… I’m not really into paying gym memberships)
I never got a gym membership and I never moved to an apartment with a pool. So, I didn’t meet this goal (but I feel fine about that since the condition was that a free pool would be available)


17. Get a hair cut
lol that this was a goal for me; yay that I achieve it.

18. Give up soda for one month
I did this in September. It was challenging at first, but ultimately it was a great exercise of discipline.

19. Give away any piece of clothing I don’t wear at least once a month
Having this goal made me conscious of the items in my closet that sat unworn for months at a time. Often I would rationalize by thinking, I’ll wear that next week or for another event or when the weather changes, but a lot of time I realized that I just didn’t wear the item because (usually) my style has changed and I just don’t wear it anymore. There’s no reason to keep it if I don’t use it, but I would find myself being fearful that if I gave it away, I would have less. Quickly I realized the irrationality of this poverty-complex. So, every 3-4 months I would take some of the unworn items out and donate them. It was a great lesson on living with hands open, appreciating what I do have, and practicing generosity (not a fear of scarcity).


20. Give away all the unnecessary and/or unused items in my bedroom
Same as above. Did it. Still doing it. Loving it.

21. Spend more intentional time with family and friends
Though this was ambiguous, I’d say I did do it. Having the goal in the back of my mind helped me be intentional about it.

22. Spend time at the ocean
I went to the beach in Haiti and went snorkeling with my dad, so that’s pretty cool.


23. Give feedback more often
Having this goal helped me in several key relationships last year. It encouraged me to be brave, communicate clearly, and give intentional affirmation to others. All good things!


So, I accomplished a good portion of my 23 goals and I feel good about it.


I’m currently developing my list of 24 things to achieve this year. What would should I put on it?

P.S. I haven’t seen the last season of Parks and Rec yet so don’t ruin it for me!

still becoming: slums and suburbs

I have this distinct memory of myself when I was a teenager, probably fifteen or sixteen years old. I was sitting on the green couch at my grandmother’s house, flipping through an issue of National Geographic Magazine. My grandma always had stacks and stacks of Nat Geo’s sitting in little towers around her house.

That particular issue had a feature about neighborhoods from around the world: slums, suburbs, village huts, skyscraper apartments. The photos were stunning and colorful in the way that they have to be for Nat Geo, and the juxtaposition of shots was fascinating.

As I flipped through the pages, I came across a two-page spread of a photo from a slum in Nairobi, Kenya. The photo, I remember, was taken from the middle of a dirt alleyway so that on either side of the pages, there were rows and rows of one-room houses. Made of tin and cardboard and sheets of plastic, the houses were squashed together in a jagged, uneven line. In the muddy walkways in front of them there ran a putrid looking trickle of water and sewage. Even with just a glance, one could clearly note the unsanitary and unstable environment of that neighborhood.

Fifteen-year-old me looked on with fascination, my hand stroking the picture as if touching the paper would transport me there. And I remember, very vividly, thinking: God, someday I would like to live in a place like that.

I turned the page and saw that the next two-page spread was one of an aerial view of the suburbs outside of Las Vegas, Nevada. The contrast was not lost on me. Ugh, I thought with distaste as I scanned the rows and rows of identical, beige colored houses. Freshly manicured lawns, smooth streets, all of it symmetrical and square. The tidiness of the scene was almost nauseating. Everything was in order though – clean, controlled, organized, expected.

And then, before I could think about it, before I could remember what I had JUST prayed, before I realized what I was evening thinking, I prayed, God, please don’t ever make me live in a place like that.

a suburb in which I currently do ministry

It may seem like a falsified story, but I swear to you that all these years later, I still remember that afternoon. I can still see those photos in my mind’s eye. I can still hear the words of those prayers echoing somewhere down in the caverns of my soul. And as I think about that, I realize that I started to become who I am today a long time ago.

Before I’d ever left America, before I’d ever been in a slum, before I had really any clue about what I wanted for my life, the Spirit was leading me to prayers like the ones I said on that afternoon. The Spirit was, without me knowing, shaping my heart and giving me passions.

From my seat on the green couch at my grandma’s house, I could not have imagined that one day I would in fact live and work in slums all over the world. I couldn’t have dreamed that seven years later, I would walk down the alleyways of slums in Nairobi even! I also could not have predicted that at some point, the Lord would lead me back from the slums to work in the suburbs. I certainly couldn’t have guessed that the suburbs would end up being exponentially more challenging to me that the slums ever were.

But that’s how things have gone. That’s how they’re still going.

And if it’s true that I started to become who I am a long time ago, then I suppose I’m probably still on my way. I am still becoming.

celebration of busyness (or not)

Recently I overheard a conversation between two middle-aged men. As they greeted each other, one asked, “How have you been? I haven’t seen you around in a while.” The other responded, “I’ve been so busy. Work, man, it’s consuming.” The first replied, “That’s good though, that’s good. Busy is good!”

As they carried on in conversation, undeterred by the celebration of busyness, I on the other hand, found myself trapped in those words: busy is good.

How can it be?

In the past year, I have observed this celebration of busyness in the American culture. Perhaps I was particularly keen to notice it because I’d been removed from it for a year, or maybe it was more obvious because I joined the working force in my first year out of school. Either way, I’ve begun to observe this American obsessiveness with being overworked, overcommitted, and overrun. And it is unsettling.

At Rest

Busyness, I’m fairly certain, is not what the Lord had in mind for his people. He never encourages a lifestyle consumed by commitments, stressful deadlines, and running from one thing to the next. There is no commandment to spread oneself thin. There is never a promise from God that fulfillment will be achieved when we add one more obligation to the calendar, or neglect self-preservation for the illusion of productivity.

I believe the Lord certainly values and commands efficiency and hard work and fruit-bearing activities. But I’ve never read of a Biblical celebration of busyness.

I think this is probably because busyness negates and neglects restfulness. The two cannot coexist.

But rest is most certainly a Biblical command.

Rest Area?

Just think of it – after creating everything in the universe, the Lord himself rested. He then commanded – yes, commanded – that humans would also observe a whole day of intentional, active rest. The Lord insisted that this day would happen regularly, every week, because apparently it’s that important. Beyond this command, the Lord has also demonstrated his value of rest by creating restful patterns and rhythms all over creation:

the cocooning butterfly whose rest creates something new; the napping baby whose body and mind commands sleep in order to grow and develop; the way the moon takes her time to become full and then only stays that way for a moment as if to say, it took a lot of work to get here so I will rest for a moment before I begin again.

These patterns of restful rhythms indicate that God knows his creation needs not more to do, but instead needs the discipline of not-doing. The Lord who created and designed us to be creatures that, at our best, are productive and fruit-bearing, also knew that we would be prone to over-committing, over-working, and unhealthy busyness. And so the Lord told us we need to rest. We need not be caught up in the fallacy that rest=lazy. We need to join the rhythm of the moon and the butterflies and the growing child.

We need to revolt against the cultural norms that try to convince us we’re too busy to do what God told us to do. Because when the Church starts doing that, we know that things will get ugly fast.


Photos from Flikr Common Creative

 

feeling known

I was flipping through my journal earlier, trying to find a note about a conversation I had a long time ago, and I came across this entry from December 2, 2013. It’s just so good, so poignant, that I wanted to share it:


[written from the Philippines, during the last week of the World Race] Tonight after worship and squad time, I bought an ice cream coffee drink and walked out to the beach with Shannon, Christine, [Sydney], Freweini, Katrina, and Lisa. We all sat facing the ocean and talked amongst ourselves… Eventually everyone sort of bowed out to go in for the night. But Shannon and I were in a conversation about UHC (naturally), so we stayed seated as others got up. As our conversation naturally fizzled out, I almost asked if she wanted to head in. But I hesitated and so our conversation continued. I told her about how I almost stepped down from UHC in Albania. We talked about leadership and how it’s allowed us to grow and develop. We talked for quite a while about becoming more self-aware and making discoveries of ourselves, especially in terms of how we relate to people, interact with them, work with or lead them. She and I relate a lot on this subject and I think that’s one reason why we get along and work together so well.  We talked about re-entry and all the frightening and exciting things that involves. And we talked about how inexplicable this year is.

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A photo probably taken that same night with Shannon and Jah-Jah

She described a moment she had with a street kid in the Philippines who was crazy high and how frightening and saddening that was. And as she told that story, I stared out at the sea and knew that I understood her more than anyone back home ever could, and yet I also have no clue what that memory feels like.  I know there are so many memories like that in my own heart, but a lot of them won’t resurface right away. But one day, when I’m standing in line at HEB or idling at a stop light or going on a run, those memories will come rushing back to me in an unstoppable way.  And those are the moments that cannot be easily shared with others. They’re too tender and sacred – too unspeakable. But maybe someday I’ll be sitting on a beach at night, talking with a dear friend, and one of those memories will slip its way into our conversation, and the sacrality of that memory will make us both feel so human that it hurts. And when I share it, they’ll know that they don’t really know at all what I feel, but they’ll also know me so much better because of it.


In life, it is so extremely important that we have these conversations and moments and memories that make us feel overwhelmingly, undeniably, altogether  k n o w n .

one year later

Yesterday marked one year since I returned to America after the World Race.

Naturally, I can’t help but consider all that has happened since my plane landed at LAX. And as my mind floats in the bobbing waters of nostalgia, I find myself joining the ranks of many of my squadmates who are also saying: damn, it’s been a hard year.

I was under no disillusion that the year after the Race would be easy. I was fully prepared for reverse culture shock and anti-American sentiments. I knew I’d struggle with finding comparable community. I figured it’d take me a while to process through alllllll the memories of the Race, both good and bad, and that it would be a bumpy road of trying to apply what I’d learned.

Even though I anticipated the difficulty, I also tried my hardest to be optimistic, to seek out adventure and joy, to practice contentment and gratitude. I put one foot in front of another, kept reminding myself of the Truth I’ve come to know, and marched on with courage.

I feel like I’ve been hiking a steep mountainside for a while now, huffing and puffing and cursing a bit in between breaths. My muscles are sore and I am tired. But finally, I’m approaching the peak. The steepness is subsiding. I am almost to the top again.

I know that soon, when I finish this summit, I’ll be able to turn around and look back at the beautiful valley below. Though I could not appreciate her color and shape and allure as I hiked through her trails, from the peak I can see the fullness of her splendor. And I will also be able to see the many valleys and trails through which I hiked before this one, and they will also have a charm that can only be appreciated from this perspective. And as I cross over this peak into the next valley, I know that a new set of trails will be waiting for me with her own challenges and triumphs.

I suppose this is the rhythm of our existence.

the weekend

This weekend:

 

high school football; baby shower for an old friend; a reunion with another old friend; Longhorn football at the Wesley House; driving home at 6am;

As soon as I entered the valley into the hill country, a thick fog settled over the road but by the time I made it into the suburbs, the sun was peaking her head over the strip malls.

It was a relatively simple weekend, and yet the fullness in my heart tells me that it was much-needed.

xoxo